Woke up to the valley blanketed in mist, the first of the autumn mists, Damp white and low cloud right across the fields and mountain slopes — I couldn’t see to the end of the back garden. And by 9am this solid white fog had burned off in the sun.
Spending time with someone who grows apricots, saffron pears, quinces and pomegranates in her back garden. She preserves and bottles them, following an old recipe for pickled peaches with vinegar, bay leaves, cloves and chilli that dates back to the French occupation of the Cape in 1803. Her family farmed near Ceres and came over the mountains in ox wagons in the 1920s to farm wheat on the rolling slopes around here. We sat talking on the sunlit porch or stoep under a trellis of reddened vines, drinking strong coffee while she told me family history. Her grandmother used to sit out in the same spot shelling peas into her starched white apron and smoking an old hand-carved calabash pipe, unusual in a woman then, but she was a skilled midwife and highly respected in the area. She smoked her own fish (snoek, kabbeljou, geelbek) caught down at the coast and hung up to dry with plaited strings of onions next to pegged washing, starchy Sunday-best suits and cotton frocks all suspended together in the tiled laundry room at the back of the house. White shirt fronts imbued with a whiff of smoky fish…
Shielding my eyes from the last of the summer sun, the sky overhead a dome of sheet-metal at noon. Today the eye is rested although still aching a little. There are luscious pink and white nerines coming up in all the gardens down this street, wild unhybridised nerines known locally as ‘March lilies’. A few retired homesteaders have white dovecotes standing tall in their orchards, so that white pigeons are wheeling over the oaks in perfect formation. And the oaks are now heavy with acorns, fodder for squirrels and pigs. All around the valley there will be wild eland and grysbokke come down from the mountains to graze on fallen fruit.
Meditations on country living. The pace of life is slow here and ‘nothing happens overnight’: back home the dogs are all asleep under the avocado tree and lizards are still basking on the back step, a small grey cat sleeping curled up under a berried viburnum bush. Too slow a life perhaps, but in truth I can’t imagine myself growing old in a city, away from seasons and tides and leaf fall..
From Stanley Kunitz’ End of Summer
An agitation of the air,

I can’t imagine myself growing old in a city either. I love the country life and am suited for it. I can get into the city if I want but find that my retreat to the boat or our home on the island is just what I need at the end of the day.
Ah yes, Syd. Island life and proximity to the ocean, your messing about in boats as The Wind in the Willows has it — if I had a parallel life, I’d live by the sea.
I’d love to try the country life. I think I would really love it — but having never truly experienced it, I might just be romanticising. You make it sound beautiful though.
It is a big adjustment and not easy — nothing much happens and there are no cinemas, cafes, shops, art exhibitions, concerts. You have to be passionate about slowness and landscape!
I long for a life at a slower pace. It would be wonderful to go with the flow instead of always feeling like the turtle who is making everyone else impatient.
Sounds like a wonderful visit with your friend. And I think I also just found the origin of the word used in eastern regions of the US – the “stoop,” it would make sense.
Yes, the word ‘stoep’ meaning a porch is Afrikaans and comes from the Dutch, very close to your ‘stoop’. I suspect country life would suit you very well –
Letting go is a major theme of my writing. I came across your website through Google Alert and have been following you for a month or so. Your blog is lovely and I thank you for both the beauty and the insights that you share.
How good to hear from you Mary G and to find another writer’s blog! Thanks for the kind comments.