Exquisite and terrifying

Thinking of  all those of you celebrating a day of thankfulness, hoping you have a peaceful family reunion and find the ultimate recipe for cranberry sauce.

 

Just heard from an American friend in Cape Town who has planeloads of jetlagged and fractious family arriving long-distance from New York this morning. She has decided to attempt Jacques Pepin’s turkey recipe (in the current NYT) which involves steaming the turkey in a vast canning pot, then roasting it and then glazing it with cider vinegar and Tabasco. The big advantage here, she tells me, is that by the time she crawls out of the turkey sauna bath of a kitchen with her lacquered bird, the family will have eaten all the sweet potato mash, the pecan nut squash bake, the pumpkin pie and Twinkies, and will have fallen asleep. Insane to  do something like that in  soaring summer heat, but we all need to find a way to cope with family –

 

“That’s the big question, the one the world throws at you every morning. “Here you are, alive. Would you like to make a comment?”
– Mary Oliver

 

It is nearing the end of the year and I can’t  finish  all my projects, despair at the prospect of carrying them over into the  next year. That is what might have to happen. It is ferociously hot, glorious in the mornings and evenings, hell at noon. The garden slithers with  snakes, lizards and skinks. I am not especially afraid of snakes (those beautiful shy predators) and  yet I hesitate to walk along garden paths in the noonday heat,  convinced  there are more snakes around than in any previous year.  At night snakes visit me,  sliding in and out of  dreams, startling me into  new levels of awareness. Nic Bishop has just published a book  about snakes with  brilliant photographs:

Two photographs show snakes in tandem with their prey. Against a dark and foreboding background, an emerald tree boa, its forked tongue flickering hungrily forward, lies within inches of a tiny opossum, its ears upright, frozen in terror. We learn in the accompanying text that a snake can taste the scent of prey nearby and sense other animals’ presence in the night. Another photograph, in high magnification, shows an Australian carpet python with its body wrapped around a mole-like creature, jaws clenched on the dead animal’s soft underbelly.

Throughout there are exquisite and terrifying details. A foldout spread of the Mojave rattlesnake captures both the dry, bony-looking coils of its rattle and its dart-like blackish tongue. An eyelash viper, mango yellow, is poised jaws wide open, its fangs visible folded back into two sleeves within its gums. Another snake is shown in the process of swallowing an egg four times the size of its own head.

And kept awake too by the thoughts of war, the shelling of Gaza, the  rocket mortars crashing into the Iron Dome, the pitiless spectacle of  war.  Will the ceasefire hold?

 

From Judith Butler

 

Along with many other people, I am trying to contest the notion that we can only value, shelter, and grieve those lives that share a common language or cultural sameness with ourselves. The point is not so much to extend our capacity for compassion, but to understand that ethical relations have to cross both cultural and geographical distance. Given that there is global interdependency in relation to the environment, food supply and distribution, and war, do we not need to understand the bonds that we have to those we do not know or have never chosen? This takes us beyond communitarianism and nationalism alike.

 

 

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12 comments to Exquisite and terrifying

  1. Being bitten by a snake….that dream I had, years ago, which still makes me look at my palm in wonder. I only truly started to change fter that dream.

    Love,
    Terri in Joburg

    • Mary LA says:

      That is scary and wonderful, Terri. I had a dream once about a piercing and savage bite from a wounded baboon and that sent me off into the vortex. Who knows where the awakening will come from Terri?

  2. I wish you a happy Thanksgiving Mary. I wish the world would break out in peace. For today I shall just be happy that my little family is at peace. No small feat.

  3. Kitty says:

    I love the Mary Oliver quote. it’s fantastic.

  4. luluberoo says:

    I’m so afraid of snakes, due to a news story I heard when I was an impressionable child, I cannot even imagine opening the link.

    A blessed, and safe, Thanksgiving at my house. My kids are here, and talking to each other. My granddaughter is delighting all with her attempts at speech. It doesn’t get any better than this. I think of you and your housemate, and hope the violence and dissent is settling down.

    • Mary LA says:

      Lou, I’m sorry — my sister was frightened by a tale of a giant spider told to her when she was little and she couldn’t even look at pictures of spiders for years

      I miss your blog, want to send you a long email next week

  5. Angela Nolan says:

    Hi sweetie. Love, love, love Mary Oliver. I have her quote: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” on my computer desk. Helps keep me sober. Heather’s cranberry sauce receipe was good, but I had one I liked better and still can’t find the damned thing. Dinner was good, except for the dressing. I was trying to duplicate my aunt’s for which there is no written recipe. Yesterday she realized she failed to mention a couple of things, which apparently were very important, but it was too late. So now it will be a challenge for me very year because I am determined to get it right. I’ve never had dressing like hers anywhere else and it’s the ultimate comfort food.

    • Mary LA says:

      Ang, I’m so glad you had a good day — please share that dressing with me when you get it right. I have a vinaigrette that took me years to develop but I still hanker after other dressings!

  6. Syd says:

    All the Christmas frenzy is going wild here. People up at all hours to rush to get more stuff from the stores. We don’t put any Christmas decorations up until the first week in December. I like to celebrate each holiday separately. It was a nice Thanksgiving. And tomorrow is our wedding anniversary. Both tied with giving thanks.

    I don’t know whether the ceasefire will hold. Has it before? The nations continue to war against each other and have for years. I don’t think that we as humans know how to do anything better than wage war. But I am an optimistic person who would like for there to be everlasting peace.

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